World Suicide Prevention Day – September 10th, 2016
If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal, please call for help right away.
In Canada call your local crisis center, call 911 or visit http://suicideprevention.ca
We are incredibly honoured to be a part of this blog tour to discuss suicide prevention. Sarah and I each wrote a post to discuss this very important topic. You can read Sarah’s post here.
Sarah and I started Couple of Sense due to a drive we both had to make a difference in the financial lives of those who come to us. There is no difference more powerful than saving someone from thoughts of ending their life. I wanted to start off by taking you on a trip to a time in my life when I wasn’t very proud of myself. In all honesty, I was downright ashamed of myself. I was very unhappy with how I saw myself, and how I presumed others saw me. My shame came from the choices I had made, and where they had put me. I also want to tell you how important it is to realize that we all have light in our world to find. Finding yours is no easy task, but might be the most important thing you’ll ever do.
Where I Was in my Head
As a young man I had endured some hardships growing up and really struggled with fitting in. When you are in the early years of high school there is very little that is more important than friends. I struggled with my appearance; I couldn’t have been more than 5 and a half feet tall and topped 275 lbs at my largest. Of course I could lose weight, but that wouldn’t change who I was – just my shell. I felt trapped in myself. Loneliness was my only real friend. While I did struggle with some pretty dark thoughts during this time in my life, it wasn’t until one night that it came to the surface. I didn’t have any specific thoughts of ending my life – I just knew that it was all just getting to be too much to handle. I was stupid – I dealt with it on my own.
It was a few years before I pulled myself back. Had I reached out for help, I may have been able to rebound so much faster. That said, in those years I learned something that has stayed with me, and is now ingrained in my heart, my mind and my soul. I learned that the darkness that surrounded me was temporary, it was thick as all hell, but temporary.
This is what I desperately want to impart on you. If you are struggling with debt, that may be your darkness. That darkness can be extremely thick; it can consume so many of your thoughts and make you feel trapped. Here is the thing about darkness, it doesn’t exist. Darkness is the absence of light. Light does exist, and there isn’t a darkness that can overpower it. Embrace your light; let it do what light does so well.
Your Debt is Your Darkness
Debt can be particularly nasty to overcome. It feeds on itself, becoming bigger over time. This is where the strength of light comes in; the smallest amount of light spreads and grows faster than your darkness ever possibly could. So how do you find your light, how do you turn it on? It isn’t quite as simple as a switch, but not much more difficult. Your light is hope, all you need to turn on your light is to take a single step in the other direction and start letting it spread.
Hope might seem out of reach, but it is there waiting for you. You can’t see it because it hasn’t been turned on. The great thing about the light, is that even if you can’t see it you are not alone and if you are willing – someone else can turn it on for you. Your debt is a result of past mistakes, past circumstances and past decisions. You have debt, but you are not debt yourself.
A Place to Turn
You have a world of resources at your disposal – and even more powerful you have thousands of people in the personal finance community who are driven by a desire to make a difference in the lives of others. Your debt can be overcome, and you will overcome it. You will be surrounded by the light of hope and then ride that light and fill every crack, every inch of your life. You are not alone, not by a long shot. The world isn’t done with you, not for a long time.
I know you can’t see it right now, don’t let that stop you from looking for it – there is a way out, and on the other side you will find something amazing. You’ll find the strength you never thought you had, you’ll find the happiness you didn’t think you deserved, you’ll find the life you are supposed to live.
Life is always worth living if you can make a difference in someone else’s life. We are all capable of making that difference, even if it’s a small change or only for a day.
Keep plugging away, you can do it!
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